UNDERSTANDING REALITY: Seeing is an Illusion, Feeling is Believing

David Bowie Made it Safe For Me to Find My Truth With Bisexual Experience

If you have sex with other men you are a bisexual experience not a word. You think you know what you think, but you really only know what you feel. You must have your own individual experience of sexuality in order to learn. Then after you really feel something and label yourself you may keep on learning and feeling, and then change your label again like you change your feelings. The point is, don’t jump into labeling yourself prematurely or better yet sexually liberate yourself by never labeling yourself again. Are you experienced?

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When David Bowie came out as bisexual in his 1976 Playboy interview he made it safe for me to engage in my own bisexual experience.  I had already kissed girls and it electrified me. At the same time boys who were totally gay wanted to give me head and I eagerly acquiesced, but would never reciprocate. I knew I wasn’t gay but I enjoyed selfishly getting my sexual needs met from aggressive gay and bisexual men.

bisexual experienceThe purpose of this article is to encourage you to process your own sexual experience within a heterocentric framework. Keep an awareness of what you are doing as you are leaping into the free flowing sex blizzard of commercial gay life in the big city. Jump in and out of bisexual like you jump in and out of love. Make sexuality liberating not limiting. Keep your options wide open by self-identifying as pansexual or bisexual. 

San Diego is Tops for Bisexual Experience


The best city for bisexual experience is San Diego. San Diego is world famous for having one of the best bisexual communities on the planet. “Dago” as the locals affectionately refer to it, is also close to Palm Springs, Long Beach and Los Angeles, bastions of the gay, transgendered, queer and bisexual experience in Southern California.  

There is no substitute for experience. You never really stop learning until you learn what it is like to take your very last breath. When you are young you learn one thing and when you are old you learn another thing. The important thing in life is spiritual experience and practice.

As you physically mature you should also be spiritually maturing. As you get older you may want to spend less and less time looking for spiritual fulfilment in music and movies. When my spiritual experienced matured my desire for pop culture declined. Even now my libido is declining, thank God. bisexual experience

Learning how to be a bisexual top or a pansexual bottom requires a very steep learning curve. If you are just starting out make sure you focus on intimacy and emotional gratification.

Try to find a gay sexual mentor of sex coach if you can. I was lucky enough to have a really big man come along and train me in male sacred intimacy and tantra. White tantra is the practice of withholding orgasm and transmuting sexual energy into spiritual energy. Kundalini yoga, tantra and chakra meditation have transformed my life. I used to go to gay and bisexual men’s naturist gatherings but I am burned out on all of that at present. I live in a resort town that is 1/3 gay but I am just not into it. For right now anyway. I am living a life of self-realization and contemplation as I blog about it even now. If you have any questions send me an email. Have a transformative Memorial Day Weekend 2016.

By Dean McAdams

Born a poor peckerwood in a Tujunga holler, Dean practiced secrets of the ancient & modern masters to end up liberated in the coastal paradise of West L.A.