Public Speaking Means Connecting.
Mastering the Art of Public Speaking by Michael J. Gelb is definitely worth the read. You can even read it for free by checking out a copy from the Los Angeles County Library as this reviewer did. Mr. Gelb emphasizes the importance of connecting before speaking. Public speaking means connecting. We are hard wired to decide in the first few moments if we are confronted with friend or foe. As human beings we are a very aggressive species on an extremely competitive planet. When someone opens their mouth should we fight, flee, freeze or fornicate?
Public speaking means connecting with ourselves and our audience. Connect with your nervous system in order to authentically connect with your audience. Write down your objectives in terms of what your audience to KNOW, FEEL, & DO as a result of your interaction, as a result of your connection.
Be clear: Clarify what you want to say, why you want to say it, and how your audience will benefit. How will my presentation improve the lives of my audience.
Be present: Say it in the most memorable and effective way by applying the skills of presentation
When you know what you want to say, why you want to say it, and how to say it, you’ll discover that you feel clear of fear and that you are able to easily present with your audience. Express support and encouragement. Teach alcoholics how to be successful recovering alcoholics. BE “OTHERISH” instead of selfish.
Authenticity versus Fauxthenticity
In human interactions the person with the most organized nervous system is poised to have the most influence. Fear causes scripted, over rehearsed, and faux-authentic expressions of vulnerability.
Freedom of speech does not mean you can or should say whatever you are thinking or whatever you whatever you feel like saying, or shouting. You must consider the context.
The “self” is multifaceted, and many aspects of it are best kept, well, to yourself.
Synonyms for the word authentic include original genuine and real. The word comes from the roots auto meeting self and send meaning to achieve. Presenting yourself in a genuine manner is an important element in creating success as a public speaker. Your credibility as a speaker and leader is directly correlated with how authentic the audience perceive you to be.
Who you are communicates more than what you speak in public
What was the secret behind Gandhi’s ability to enchant audiences for hours without using a script or notes? The answer is that what Gandhi thinks, what he feels, what he says, and what he does are all the same. He did not need notes. This is the power of inner alignment, of authenticity.
Inner Alignment requires inner work that many people prefer to avoid, so they fake sincerity and indulge in pseudo-authenticity. This faux-authenticity is on the rise.
To grow as a presenter. You must grow as a person. The quest for authenticity is the heart of leadership. To be a great public speaker, you must learn to speak from your true self. In our society it is not always easy to know or be your self.
The first transformational secret of master public speakers:
Adopt the mindset of a professional public speaker. Make being a professional presenter part of my identity: I am a professional public speaker.
Transformational secrets of the professional mindset:
Instead of worrying too much about your self a professional focuses on empathy and understanding his audience.
Discard rancid clichés and slice away my habitual interjections in order to serve up fresh, sharp turns of phrase.
“All writing is a campaign against cliché, not just clichés of the pen but clichés of the mind and cliches of the heart.” – Martin Amis
“There is no mode of action, no form of emotion, that we do not share with the lower animals. It is only by language that we rise above them, or above each other — by language, which is the parent, and not the child, of thought.” – Oscar Wilde