Dharma Dog

During the years 2005-2010, I lived mainly in my RV with an exquisitely trained black German shepherd named Dharma.  On Silverdaddies.com we met gay sexologist Dr. Paul McDuff Allen MD who had recently relocated his sexalogical bodywork practice from Biloxi, Mississippi to Santa Monica, California.  Dr. Allen relocated westward in order to become a certified Core Energetics practitioner with Ann Bradney and celebrity Ayahuasca shaman don Miguel Filipowich. 

Meeting Paul Allen was a fortuitous event leading to a giant leap in the transformation and elevation of my consciousness.  Prior to meeting the good doctor, I had the emotional intimacy skills of a feral child raised by wolves in Tujunga, California.  During my relationship with Dr. Allen I experienced a profound emotional and sexual healing in which I discovered my own love buried deep inside of my cold hard heart. 

Living in an RV on the Streets of Playa del Rey

Dr. Allen was renting a room way over on the north east side of the megalopolis in a suburb called Eagle Rock and he was a frequent flyer at LAX.  My RV was usually parked at Toes Dunes or the Del Rey Lagoon in Playa del Rey, and I dumped my waste water tanks next door at Dockweiler State Beach RV Park, a few feet directly underneath the departure flight path of LAX. 

Dr. Allen already knew my neighborhood and restaurants and so two months after we met, we rented what used to be a garage that had been converted into a guest house and moved in together in Westchester, four blocks from the north runway of LAX. 

Westchester LAX, CA 90045

There were no street sweeping or parking restrictions and so I permanently parked my RV on Kenwood Avenue right outside our miniature apartment like it was a spare bedroom.  When Dr. Allen and I were both on our phones and/or it became otherwise impossible for us to coexist in our tiny one-room living space I could always step right down the walkway to my RV for some privacy.  Some nights I would even sleep alone in the RV again, parked right there on the street next to my little rental unit.  Dr. Allen would be snoring loudly away alone in our bed and Dharma sleeping wherever she wanted.  Most of the time Dr. Allen was either up in the air or working surveying mom & pop day surgery centers for Medicare compliance. So most of the time Dharma and I had the place all to ourselves and we preferred to be home a lot after being on the road in a 36′ Recreational Vehicle for almost seven years.

black German shepherd pup

Dharma Transition

Our little guest house had a tiny well-manicured back yard where Dharma spent her final months and days until her hind legs just withered up into nothing, and on July 7, 2011 at age 15.8 years she could no longer walk.  I had already cried it all out one day while giving her a bath and so there was nothing left to do except put her in her mini-van and take her to her veterinarian in Inglewood.  I never got another dog after that because I had to stop talking to a dog and start talking to another person like my new partner Dr. Paul Allen, OB/GYN.   

paul mcduff allen md

Emotional Intimacy Surrogate and Certified Sexological Bodyworker Dr. Paul McDuff Allen MD

My intimate sexual relationship with Dr. Allen refined and sophisticated my character and living with him was one of the pivotal events in my life.  At first I didn’t want to get into a relationship with him because he has mobility problems.  I turned down his request to become California registered domestic partners because I didn’t want him to financially entangle with my glorious retirement as a charity pauper.  I got involved with him because I was really lonely, I didn’t want to get a real job and Dharma and I were both sick and tired of living in that damn RV!  It was really nice to be worshiped and adored by a sophisticated gentleman.  I became a better person as a result of my relationship with Dr. Allen, stopped cluttering my living space and now I make my bed soon upon awakening.  He transformed me like Pygmalion created his statue and professor Henry Higgins refined Audrey Hepburn as Eliza Doolittle. 



Living with Paul McDuff Allen MD for two years turned out to be one of the best things that ever happened to me.  We used to joke that I was like Pygmalion’s statue come to life or the unsophisticated Eliza Doolittle transformed into My Fair LadyAll I want is a room somewhere, far away from the cold night air.  I have already written three or four blogs about the influence this amazing “hands-on” teacher has had upon my life.  There is a very steep learning curve for male to male sexuality.  Because of Dr. Allen I prefer to self-identify as pansexual, in love with everything.  There is a lot to learn about gay life and what better teacher than a trained gynecologist.  Have you ever had a surgeon make love to your body?  It is exquisite to feel the delicate touch of Dr. Paul McDuff Allen MD making love to your body.  The rain in Spain, falls mainly on the plain. 

Pygmalion priant Vénus d’animer sa statue, Jean-Baptiste Regnault